Nurses Who Genuinely Love Caring For Others

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At Allumé, we have thought long and hard about what makes an Allumé care provider unique.  What stands out among our very best nurses and team members? What we’ve found is that what it boils down to is that these special humans genuinely love caring for others.

Yes, it’s true, we look for nurses who have excellent clinical skills, and a strong propensity to learn and grow.  These attributes are also essential to us.  But even if they are clinically stellar, an Allumé nurse will not find herself a fit in our culture, if she doesn’t deeply care for the people around her.

Someone who genuinely loves caring for others demonstrates these qualities…

Someone who DOESN’T genuinely love caring for others might more authentically demonstrate these qualities…

  • Feels most alive and satisfied when supporting, connecting with, caring for, or listening to others.  Caring for others is truly their calling.
  • Feels burdened, drained, overwhelmed, and possibly even resentful by the needs of others.  Caring for others is not truly what drives them.
  • Thoughts are usually focused on either the needs and wants of others or on the virtues and generosity of others.
  • Thoughts are often focused on one’s own wants, needs, and concerns which often manifests itself as complaints, disappointments, insecurities, and excuses.  Thoughts are very “I” focuses, rather thank “other” focused.
  • Goes out of the way to think of and care for others.  This manifests in big ways and small.  It’s little things like replacing the roll of toilet paper when it’s out of paper or calling up your elderly neighbor after a snowstorm offering to shovel her walkway.  Noticing a shortage of supplies in a patient’s home and ordering replacements, even if it’s technically someone else’s job.
  • Thinking of others is less of an automatic reflex.  While they might care about people, it doesn’t necessarily occur to them to go above and beyond.  If it’s not their job to replace the toilet paper, why would they change it?  The elderly person next door is someone else’s responsibility, so why reach out to them?  It’s the nurse working on the 1st shift to make sure there are enough supplies, so why should I bother?
  • Intuitively senses what others’ spoken and unspoken needs and wants might be.  Knows when someone is upset, nervous, concerned, unhappy, hopeful, and excited and knows how to respond appropriately.
  • May not be able to read other’s emotions, feelings, or unexpressed needs.
  • Portrays empathy and humility whenever someone on the team doesn’t do what is expected, rather than judge or blame others for their shortcomings.  Assumes that people all want to do the right thing and that any shortcomings are due to lack of information, resources, or training which can all be utilized to support the future success of the team member.
  • When others on the team fall short of expectations, the typical response might be more of shame, blame, or judgment. Frustration and disappointment are often the response rather than a curious desire to help the team member be successful in the future.
  • When working with a team, will think of others on the team and generously go out of the way to make their life easier.  Goes the extra mile to ensure that the work they have done meets the needs of anyone else on the team who will later need to utilize their work product.  Actively thinks about how things could fall through the cracks and actively works to prevent these things from happening.
  • When working on a team, she will do whatever is expected of her, but not necessarily make sure the baton has been fully transitioned to downstream team members.  Expects others to pick up any dropped balls. It doesn’t occur to them to consider all the ways things might fall through the cracks.
  • Is known for supportively reaching out to friends, co-workers and family members when something tragic or difficult happens in their life
  • Feel bad for people going through hard times, but doesn’t necessarily feel a need or responsibility to actively help them.  It likely wouldn’t be something they would think about.
  • Sends thank you cards to express gratitude for the good things others bring to one’s life
  • Feeling grateful is not a regular or prominent experience for this person.  Expressing gratitude is not automatic.
  • Has impeccable attendance, knowing that others are counting on them.  Arrives early to work, to ensure she never lets a family down.  Rarely if ever calls out from work, as she is dedicated to her work and her responsibilities.
  • Is often running late or not fully prepared. Their focus is less on their commitment to show up for others and more on their long list of reasons why they can’t be on time and aren’t prepared.  They feel justified in taking time off and arriving late because of the long list of challenges they are facing.

Team members who genuinely love caring for others fit into the Allumé culture for lots of reasons:

  1. They are more naturally able to express Remarkable Care(TM) to others and themselves
  2. They are more likely willing to be self-aware and open to discovering their blindspots keeping them from their very best life
  3. They desire to have a wonderful life, filled with meaning, success, connection, joy, and fun, which is essential for bringing light to others
  4. They believe a great life, career, relationships begin with their own willingness to learn, heal, and grow
  5. They are more likely able to learn the disciplines of self-care required to ultimately feel “lit from within,” which is what we encourage each employee to strive to be
  6. They are willing to take responsibility for their joy, fulfillment, and success rather than forever feel tied to circumstances they believe are outside their control

These are the kinds of people we long to attract.  We feel that with these unique humans, Allumé has what it needs to fulfill its mission of Remarkable Care(TM).

 

Coco Sellman

Founder & CEO

Allumé Home Care

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