Discover What You Secretly Wish To Feel
Five Steps To Being Your Best Self
In the last “Being Remarkable” article entitled, “Design the Life Of Your Best Self” we started a discussion about being your Best Self.
In the last article, I revealed my longing for every Allumé teammate to feel they are being their Best Self, and then introduced the Five Steps to Being Your Best Self:
- Discover What You Secretly Wish To Feel
- Imagine Your Feelings As Goals
- Be Your Vision Now
- Activate the Rituals of Your Best Self
- Experience Daily Harvest
Today let’s start with the first step…
Discover What You Secretly Wish To Feel
So often we focus on an outcome or object we desire: more money, new job, dream vacation, thin body, loving partner, fancy home, pretty jewelry, etc.
I recommend instead to first focus on how you want to feel.
Notice that what you really crave out of that desired outcome or object is actually a feeling.
Shrouded in your desire for a “thing” or “outcome” lives a secret wish for an unmet feeling you crave…
- Being debt-free might make you feel secure, hopeful, relieved, proud, or satisfied.
- Having a beautiful home might make you feel inspired, established, elegant, safe, content, or important.
- Going on a dream vacation might make you feel excited, adventurous, relaxed, restful, peaceful, or festive.
- A thin body might make you feel beautiful, acceptable, lovable, precious, sexy, worthy, or fun.
- A loving partner might make you feel adored.
What do you secretly wish to feel?
Below is a list of popular feeling words to help you explore and ponder what you want to feel. Or use a thesaurus to help you find the precise words that describe how your Best Self feels.
Written Exercise:
- Write down all of the feelings you are longing to feel. What do you long to feel? What do you crave?
- What do you want to feel at work?
- What do you want to feel at home?
- How do you want to feel in your physical body?
- How do you want to feel in your intimate relationships?
- How does success feel to you?
- How does love feel to you?
- How would you feel if you were being your Best Self?
- Now go through the list and circle your top 10 feelings.
- Now put an asterisk (*) next to your top 5 feelings.
- Move onto the next step below.
Example.
My five words are engaged, elevated, connected, whole-hearted, and worthy.
| Abundant
Accomplished Active Adored Adventurous Alive Amazing Appreciated Artistic Attractive Authentic Awake Aware Balanced Beaming Becoming Belonging Beautiful Blessed Bliss Bold Brave Brilliant Bountiful Calm Capable Centered Certain Charged Charming Cheerful Cherished Clear Clever Competent Complete Confident Connected Conscious Courageous |
Creative
Curious Daring Delicious Delightful Desirable Determined Dynamic Easy Effective Effortless Ecstatic Elated Energetic Engaged Enterprising Enthusiastic Exceptional Experienced Fabulous Fascinated Flourishing Fortunate Freedom Fulfilled Fun Generous Genuine Gifted Glorious Glowing Good-looking Gorgeous Graceful Grand Grateful Glad Harmonious Healing
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Healthy
Helpful Honest Humorous Hopeful Imaginative Impressive Industrious Ingenious Innovative Inspiring/Inspired Intelligent Interesting Intuitive Inventive Invincible Inviting Irresistible Jolly Jovial Joyful Juicy Kind Knowing Light-hearted Limitless Lively Loving Loved Lucky Magical Magnificent Marvelous Masterful Mighty Motivated Natural Nourishing Nurturing Noble |
Open
Optimistic Outstanding Participating Peaceful Perfect Persevering Persistent Playful Pleased / Pleasing Plentiful Powerful Precious Prepared Productive Profound Prompt Prosperous Proud Qualified Quick Radiant Refined Refreshing Relaxed Reliable Remarkable Resourceful Respected Rewarding Safe Satisfied Secure Seductive Self-Reliant Sensational Sensible Sensitive |
Serene
Sexy Smart Smooth Sparkling Special Spiritual Splendid Strong Stunning Successful Sweet Talented Tenacious Tender Terrific Thankful Thrilled Thriving Trusting / Trusted Truthful Unique Uplifted Valued Valuable Victorious Vigorous Vivacious Vivid Warm Wealthy Well Whole Wise Wonderful Worthy Youthful Zeal Zest |
Stay tuned for the next article, “Imagine Your Feelings As Goals,” to discover how these five feelings can direct your life.
By Coco Sellman
Capable, respected, strong, Compassionate, worthy,
Strong words! Thank you for sharing. Holding the space for all the power that comes with them…
Cheerful, motivated, confident, enthusiastic, inspiring.
Great feelings! And I would assert, you ARE already these things. I bet the people closest to you, would use these words to describe you.